You've Mistaken Me For Someone Who Cares
I've been a supervisor for many years and oh, the stories I could tell. I listen more than I speak and most of the time, I say what needs to be said. I've learned that I can't make everyone happy all of the time, I have to live with the decisions I make and that humans are funny, funny beings.
I consider myself a thoughtful decision maker and, even in the face of over thinking at times, I get that decisions I make can create disappointment. I get, and honor, that people may need time and space to work through their reactions. What I don't get is the cold shoulder. Come on Virginia-cold-shoulders, do you think this will add anything to the conversation, prove a point or motivate change? Really?! Do you see the flaw in this logic?
I know that these things will pass, they always do. What do you know? Stop for a moment and think before you react. Think about the impression you will make on those around you. Do you think that will pass as quickly?
Peace out.
Thursday, December 3, 2009 | in Leadership 
Reader Comments (5)
Cheers!
Shennee
Once upon a time he worked for me, then we restructured and he doesn't any more and I'm OK with that and so is he. Once when he was doing his best petulant child imitation I asked him, "Do you think that behaving in this way is either going to persuade me to change my mind or convince me that your way is right and I'm not? Is it meant to persuade me or punish me? I'm not sure how the game is played and I want to make sure I do my part correctly." He said it was to punish me with a sort of "that's NOT how the game is played" pout. I wasn't supposed to acknowledge his pout until he was finished with it. But honestly... we had too much to do at the time for that. We don't miss each other. And weirdly he still calls with questions but I used to NEVER get him to call me with questions. *sigh*
Hi Dawn, I sometimes wonder how much time and energy to put towards the naysayers and other times it's crystal clear - none!
Nathan, I owe you a call. Haven't forgotten but haven't had much "blog" time - soon though! Thanks for the link to the post. I do have to wonder - and I have - if I sometimes delay the tough conversations a tad too much, expect others to read my mind too often, who knows -we do the best we can.
Rich, "I want to do my part correctly" I love it! Call it like you see it and address it head on, with a smile!